One of the most powerful tools a parent can lean on when having age-appropriate conversations with children about “big” topics like death or illness are picture books. Children relate to the characters from a safe distance, process complex topics through the stories, and find safety and comfort through the illustrations. (Although PJ Library does not send books about death or dying, we do maintain a list for families and educators. )
The beautiful picture books below help children understand Jewish mourning and remembrance rituals. In addition, the stories can also be a powerful tool for adults unsure of how to broach this topic with children.
Written by Richard Ho, illustrated by Carmel Ben Ami, published by Knopf Books for Young Readers, an imprint of Penguin Random House
Each year, a girl and her mom light a yahrzeit candle on the anniversary of an uncle’s passing. Even though she was young when he died, her memories of him shine bright and clear: all the times they went camping, read together, and how he was there for every birthday. With luminous art that glows on the page A Flame Burns On is an unforgettable, poignant story about finding joy and light in the darkness, and an ode to the loved ones that stay in our hearts forever, long after they are gone.
Written by Rebecca Gardyn Levington, illustrated by Alyssa Russell, published by Little Bee Books
This heartfelt picture book is about honoring those we have lost by remembering the happiness, comfort, and wisdom they brought into our lives. It is about the imprints that the people we love leave upon our hearts long after they are gone
Written by Alison Goldberg, illustrated by Selina Alko, published by Barefoot Books
From one sunset to the next, join a child and his family as they light a yahrzeit candle in remembrance of his grandfather and all of the beautiful memories they have with him.
Written by Lesléa Newman, illustrated by Sarita Rich and published by Charlesbridge
Lizzie is determined to cheer up her friend who is mourning the loss of his grandfather. But when Lizzie and her mother arrive at his house for a shiva call, Joshua isn’t in the mood for their usual puzzles or magic tricks. He misses his grandfather. As Lizzie participates in the Jewish customs of mourning for the first time, she begins to understand a new side of friendship. Something Sweet balances themes of processing grief, experiencing another culture, and learning how to be a good friend—and does so with tender care.
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September 23, 2026